The Universe conspires with you..

a tickly message

“your photos… you were not trying to convince a man to like you and get you. those were just you.. having fun.. getting your photos taken.”

“simple yet pretty.”

“something about you is very interesting and likeable. your eyes don’t lie. they show it..you were not trying to please anyone on those photos.  and i love looking at them”

-awww ☺

How to Tell When You’re Ready to Commit

The Indications

There are key questions to ask your mate — and yourself. And you better be honest in answering them.:) So chances are, there is more than one person out there who fits the bill for you. All of them are less than perfect. But if there are no perfect partners, how can you know whether to stay or go? Here are 10 relationship markers to help you know if he or she is The One:

1. When you’re together you feel like you’ve come home.

2. You feel like your partnership was meant to be, as if kissed by destiny.

3. In your communication with each other there is a rapid “knowing” of what each of you means.

4. You have a shared mission in life, perhaps a cause, a career, or the creation of a family life.

5. When you’re together the world seems like a better place.

6. Your mood is elevated when you’re together. It’s not necessarily passion or excitement, although that’s there too at times.

7. When you look at him/her you see a part of yourself that’s been missing. Perhaps it’s her assertiveness or his joy of adventure. But it’s something that when added to your life, makes you feel more complete.

8. Being together makes you more hopeful about the future you are creating.

9. You can be more authentic and fully yourself around your partner.

10. Being together makes each of you work harder on overcoming bad habits and becoming more loving people.

9 Reasons It’s Tough to Be Friends with a Crush

Most guy-girl friend duos were once complicated because one person had a crush on the other person.  In fact, many of my friendships with women (before I started working) developed because I was attracted to them.

 If you’re not able to date someone, there might be the option of remaining friends.  But sometimes this isn’t easy.  Here are reasons why it’s tough to be friends with a crush:

It’s So Easy
Isn’t this how love is supposed to be? You get along so well, you make each other laugh, respect each other.  You can call them five times a day and they won’t think you’re psycho.  You can tell them anything.  Well, of course it’s easy when you’re just friends, because there’s no pressure and no sex. The easier things are between you, the easier it seems to take that next step.  But it’s frustrating that you can’t just do it.

You Might Become a Romantic Confidante
This is the worst place to be:  they tell you about all the other people they want to date.  Even worse, you may become one of their confidantes, giving them advice on how to land that special someone in their life.  All you can do is be a good sport and give them the best advice you can, outside of “forget about them and date me…can’t you see?”

Romantic Moments Must Have a Limit
At times, you are basically dating your friend without the intimacy.  You go out to dinner, movies, spend a lot of time together.  Things really get painful when you end up crashing together in bed.  Maybe I’m lame, but I’ve crashed in bed with many crushes that were just friends, without making a move. I just lay there and wished we could be closer.  It really sucked when the girl felt safe enough with me as a friend to cuddle while we slept.  I wish I wasn’t “safe friend” all the time.

They Might Want One of Your Friends
In a painful variation of Romantic Confidante, your crush might end up liking one of your friends they meet through you.  Because they just think of you as a friend, they will tell you and solicit advice.  Megan, my best girlfriend in college, assisted me in many schemes, trying to help me get with her sorority sisters.  We’d literally sit down with one of those composites with all of their pictures and I’d pick out the cute ones. Later on, I found out that Megan had told my friends she liked me, and I realized that those projects must have been quite annoying for her.

You’ll Always Have Hope

You’ll read into things they do, hoping it means something.  And you’ll secretly think that your friendship will turn into a relationship someday if you do everything right.

The Outside World Expects You to Get Together
Everyone who knows you sees how great you are together.  And, because we live in this voyeuristic Us Weekly-reading world, people ask why you aren’t dating, or suggest that you should be dating.  In fact, when I went to Megan’s wedding, many of her relatives pulled me aside and said:  “We always thought you’d be the one walking down that aisle with her.”  I guess Megan never told them of my fears of commitment and my frustrating immaturity. 

You Can’t Reveal Your Feelings
This is the old “don’t rock the boat” rule.  You value your friendship, and taking the next step might destroy it.  Even if you’re not afraid of destroying the friendship by taking the next step, you still hold back because you know the other person sees you as a friend.  So, your feelings are left to burn inside secretly.

Tension
Whether it’s simple biology, mood, chemistry, or a combination of all of these things, there is often sexual tension with friends of the opposite sex.  And there’s one way to relieve this tension that would be quite fun, but you just can’t do it.

You Would Treat Them Better
If you’re very close, every time your friend is hurt or frustrated in love, they might come to you for solace and comfort.  You have to sit there watching different people hurt them and take them for granted, knowing you would give them the world and treat them right.  But, all you can do is be there for them when they are hurt before they move on to the next bad apple.

I read this insightful context just now and i want to share it to all of you out there..

Posted by: berthasister

Similar things go through my mind as well, Rich. As a woman i definitely have my insecurities despite the constant verbal and nonverbal compliments i receive. However when hitting on a guy these things go through my mind: 1. What do i look like? What’s my hair doing? Do i have something in my teeth? Did a new zit decide to grace my face since the last time i checked? 2. Do i sound stupid? I’m smart, how do i let him know i’m smart? I’m also funny, he probably doesn’t think i’m funny. He probably can’t follow my train of thought. 3. God, i hope i’m not annoying. Am i annoying myself right now? 4. How long should i stay? Aren’t we supposed to leave guys wanting more? Maybe he doesn’t even care that i’m talking to him. Ugh, i’d be mortified if that was the case. No, stop, don’t do this. be honest, be confident, you’re fabulous. If he doesn’t see that he can suck it. And that’s basically it. My guess is most women experience that, am i right ladies? So, have no fear boys, we’re all freaked. We all think we’re idiots. Just go for it anyway. Life’s too short not to take chances.

www.marieclaire.com/sex-love/men/thoughts-while-hitting

One day, a girl is struggling to open herself up to other people, particularly the one she loves the most.She fears that doing so, will only hurt herself. It is only when she realizes that by hiding herself and her feelings she is doing more damage that she will be able to open up and be free.

“You see I’m the bravest girl you will ever come to meet.

Yet i shrink down to nothing at the thought of someone really seing me.

I think my heart is wrapped around and tangled in winding weeds.

I’m so afraid of showing someone else my imperfections.

My heart is dying to be freed, it’s so guarded, I am dying to be free.”